My husband and I were beyond shocked to find out that we were pregnant already. I mean, I’m 34 1/2 and the internet & doctors act like that’s ancient. They said “at that age,” it could take up to 2 years. And while I didn’t think it would take that long, I didn’t think it would take a matter of weeks. So here’s how it happened.
First I need to give a disclaimer. My husband (Ryan) and I have never tried to get pregnant before now. As far as we know, we didn’t have any fertility issues. However, we are still SHOCKED that it happened so fast. I got pregnant in just 1 cycle. Especially since I was 34 and 1/2 when it happened. Not that 34 is old, but a woman’s chances of getting pregnant start declining quickly at 35.
Ryan & I agreed a long time ago that we were going to have 2 kids. We didn’t really discuss it much because we agreed and we knew it would happen when it should happen. Then we got married.
Two months later, I injured my back. The next 3 years were full of hospitals and surgeries. We were ready for baby #1 but I was not strong enough or healthy enough to carry a pregnancy. So we chose adoption. The adoption process was a little over a year and a half, which relatively speaking for adoptions, was quick. But at the time it felt like an eternity. Lots of disappointments and lots of sleepless nights. Now I know it was all because we were waiting on our perfect match, our son Morrison!
So after 3 years of surgeries and almost 2 years of the adoption process, we were tired. My plan was to still have 2 kids and they would be 2 years apart. Ryan’s plans had changed. He decided we were done.
When Morrison turned 1, I started suggesting (or….ummmmmmm……nagging) that it was time for baby #2. I was much healthier, stronger, and felt able to carry a pregnancy. For over a year, Ryan didn’t change his mind. Then one day he did!
The night Ryan told me he was ready, it was past my fertile time of my cycle. I had my period about a week later and then I was pregnant that month. A woman in her 30s has about a 15% chance of getting pregnant in a single cycle (source). And by doing these things, I was in that 15% chance in the first month trying.
When Ryan came home and said he was ready, I ran straight to the computer and ordered & rush shipped just about every essential oil listed in the fertility section of my Essential Oils Pocket Reference ( <<<—- Yep that’s the book I send to your for free when you sign up as a wholesale member with a premium starter kit with Young Living!). Young Living oils are the only oils I ever use and especially when I’m dealing with something as sensitive as my reproductive system. And I’m sure not going to gamble planning a family using adulterated essential oils that, well, just don’t work as well. Read more about the purity of Young Living Essential Oils here.
According the the Essential Oils Pocket Reference, essential oils and products for fertility in women are:
- Clary Sage
- Ylang Ylang
- Anise Seed
- Dragon Time (blend of fennel, clary sage, marjoram, lavender, yarrow, jasmine)
- Acceptance (blend of almond oil, coriander, geranium, bergamot, frankincense, sandalwood, blue tansy, neroli, ylang ylang)
- Mister (blend of sesame seed oil, sage, fennel, lavender, myrtle, yarrow, peppermint)
- SclarEssence (blend of coriander, ylang ylang, bergamot, jasmine, geranium)
- Lady Sclareol (blend of coriander, geranium, vetiver, orange, clary sage, bergamot, ylang ylang, sandalwood, Spanish sage, jasmine, Idaho tansy)
- EndoFlex (blend of sesame seed oil, spearmint, sage, geranium, myrtle, German chamomile, nutmeg)
- Progessence Plus (“This is the first-ever PURE progesterone serum to enter the market. It supports balanced hormone levels. Pure, USP-grade, super-micornized progesterone from wild yam infused into pure, therapeutic-grade essential oils, creating a smooth, revitalizing serum that is easily absorbed into the skin.”* Blended with copaiba, sacred frankincense, cedarwood, bergamot, peppermint, rosewood, clove, coconut oil, vitamin E.)
- Prenolone Plus Body Cream (“This cream is a broad-spectrum hormone supplement that helps boost insufficient levels of estrogen and progesterone in both men and women.”* Blended with ylang ylang, clary sage, geranium, bergamot, fennel, sage, and yarrow.)
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*Info from The Essential Oils Desk Reference.
I did this routine twice a day:
- I rubbed Prenolone Plus Body Cream on my lower back and abdomen (about 1/2 – 1 teaspoon total, a small amount).
- I put a roller ball on my Progessence Plus bottle. I rolled it on my neck (front and back) and on the Vita Flex points on my feet. I followed a U-shape. I started at my big toe, rolled up to my ankle along the outside of my foot, across my ankle bone, then along the outside of my foot to my little toe (see video below).
- I used 1-2 essential oils topically and I varied which ones I used. I used whichever oils from the above list that “spoke” to me. I used Dragon Time during my period (some women prefer to use this the week before their period). The oils I used most were sage, ylang ylang, geranium, EndoFlex, and Lady Sclareol. I would fill my palm with carrier oil and then add 3-4 drops of essential oil (usually just 1 oil or blend, but sometimes would mix 2 oils together). I would rub that on my lower abdomen, lower back, and neck. I would also dab a little oil (neat) where I wear perfume on my neck and wrists (I like Lady Sclareol for that. It’s my all time favorite smelling blend.)
I did these stretches twice a day – in the morning when I woke up and before bed. I held each stretch for 10 deep breaths. The routine takes about 15-20 minutes.
I am not a yogi. I am not flexible. I don’t work out much beyond gentle stretches and walking. These are easy, gentle stretches that anyone can do!
Cobra Pose (If you are able to straighten your arms and arch your back more, go for it! Given my back history, my arch was about as deep as the picture below.)
Cobbler’s Pose (heels together)
Lotus Pose (ankles crossed)
Supported Bridge Pose
Legs on the Wall Pose
Crescent Lunge (10 breaths each leg)
Cat / Cow Stretch (arch and release your back)
Side Stretch (10 breaths each side)
Pigeon Pose (10 breaths each side; My hip flexors are not as flexible as I would like. I placed a small pillow under the hip of the bent leg to level my hips.)
About 5 months before becoming pregnant, I did this detox program. I did not do this in anticipation of getting pregnant, but I’m sooooo glad I did it! I have no doubt that resetting my body and giving myself a clean slate to start with was very influential to becoming pregnant so quickly. I highly recommend a good detox program before trying to conceive.
Nutrition, of course, is also important. I eat a whole food diet and follow the Weston A. Price diet laid out in The Nourishing Traditions book. Grass-fed & pasture raised meats, raw milk, fermented foods, eggs, lots of good fats, and of course fruits & vegetables. Some food I try to eat every day (preconception and during pregnancy):
- Eggs from my local farm (I like boiled eggs and keep a bowl of them ready to go in my fridge for a snack.)
- A smoothie made with homemade kefir, greens like spinach or kale, gelatin, nuts, and fruit of choice
- Fermented cod liver oil (I like the cinnamon flavor. Fermented cod liver oil is full of vitamin A, D, DHA, and EPA.)
- Liver pills (Gram for gram, liver is the most nutritious part of the animal. These liver pills are from grass-fed cows. Lots of vitamin A, B, folate, and iron.)
- Homemade bone broth
- Probiotics (I drink homemade kefir and kombucha regularly, which has probiotics in it. So normally, I don’t take a probiotic supplement unless I didn’t have any probiotic rich foods or drinks that day. But while trying to conceive and while pregnant, I added a probiotic supplement daily in addition to my fermented foods.)
P.S. Here’s How We Announced it to the Grandparents
We found out that I’m pregnant early December. So we decided to wait until we celebrated Christmas with each side of the family to tell them. I found these adorable ornaments and we gifted them to each set of grandparents when we opened presents. They loved the ornament!
See more about natural fertility solutions here:
- Essential Oils for Pre-Conception from Real Fit Mama
- How I’m Balancing My Hormones Naturally from The Healthy Honeys
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